What is Insecurity?
Insecurity refers to a feeling of inadequacy or not being good enough that results in anxiety about your goals, relationships, and ability to handle certain situations.
Everyone may experience insecurity from time to time. This feeling can arise in all areas of life and is caused by many factors. It may be caused by a traumatic event, past experiences, social conditioning (learning rules by observing other people), or local environments such as school, work, or home.
Feelings of insecurity can also stem from general instability. People who experience unexpected events in everyday life are more likely to feel insecure.
On the other hand, insecurity has no clear external cause. There are times when insecurity appears as part of personality or brain chemistry. Understanding the nature of insecurities can help you manage them on your own and offer other people the support they need.
Understanding the nature of insecurities can help you manage your own and offer others the support they need.
Types of Insecurity
Feelings of insecurity usually start from one area of life and impact another. There are several common types of insecurity, such as:
1. Insecurity in starting a relationship
When a person who is considered as ‘a good example’ by a child becomes unreliable, unavailable and unsupportive, the child may likely feel insecure and form a negative self-image. In addition, the child may also experience greater emotional distress later in life
Relationship insecurity may arise based on any previous experiences or personal experiences that damage your closest relationships.
2. Insecurity in your job
Job insecurity may occur when you are anxious if you should continue to work or about the specific benefits attached to your employment. It can be triggered by anxiety over your own job performance or anxiety over factors beyond your control, such as the economy, industry trends, workplace conflicts, or the danger of company restructuring or failure.
High rates of unemployment increase job insecurity on a national scale and contribute to broader mental health problems.
3. Insecurity about your body image
The most common source of insecurity is body image. Many people feel insecure about their appearance and question whether they meet society’s standards. People of all body types can experience this type of insecurity.
4. Insecurity in making social interactions
Another common type of insecurity relates to the way you are perceived by the surrounding society and the ease with which you interact with them. This type of insecurity can be a recurring, low-level problem or can develop into a severe social anxiety disorder or social phobia.
Symptoms of Insecurity
There are several symptoms of insecurity that many people tend to experience, such as:
1. Low self-esteem
One of the symptoms of insecurity is low self-confidence. This refers to how you would often think badly about yourself or doubt your abilities. This kind of thinking can cause other problems, especially when it comes to mental health. It is best to consult a doctor if your confidence is very low.
People with insecurity often want to look confident. Self-misrepresentation on social media can also be a sign of social anxiety.
A perfectionist is someone who has the inability to be satisfied with everything, and wants to control and refine projects until they are perfect. The feeling stems from the sensation that you or your performance is never enough.
Such feelings can arise from a sense of insecurity in every area of life but are often found in the case of job stability and body image. For example, eating disorders often appear along with the attitude of perfectionism.
Social insecurity can make a person avoid social interactions through self-isolation. Sometimes he or she prefers to interact virtually in internet situations that they feel they can control.
4. Work performance
Job insecurity (not having a stable job) can work to motivate some people, but it more often results in poorer performance at work. It can lead to absenteeism in the workplace, intention to resign, avoidance of engaging with colleagues and in group projects, and poor work ethics.
Treatment for Insecurity
Talking to a qualified therapist can help you manage your fear and insecurity by identifying the cause. Your therapist can also help you develop new ways to deal with situations that affect your confidence.
Treatment cost depends on the number of your scheduled visits with your therapist. It is likely that you need numerous counseling sessions in order to fully recover.
For more details regarding the estimated treatment to overcome feelings of insecurity, contact Smarter Health.
Prevention of Insecurity
Below are some suggested tips to help you deal with insecurity:
Record everything you do correctly. If you value yourself, chances are you will have a more positive outlook on how you perceive life. For example, when you assist your boss during important meetings or as simple as helping your neighbors when carrying groceries.
2. Put your needs first
If you always pay attention to the needs of others and forget about your own needs, it means you do not appreciate yourself enough. Some ways of self-love are:
- Eat nutritious food
- Sleep between 6-8 hours every day consistently
- Quit or manage your social media activity
- Pamper yourself with a massage or facial
- Do your favorite exercises for at least 30 minutes every day
- Practice loving yourself and doing positive self-talk
3. Avoid awkwardness
There are times when you feel awkward. If you feel embarrassed or unconfident the next time, try to just laugh it off.
4. Filter negative thoughts
It is easy to be hard on yourself after making a mistake. However, blaming yourself too often can get you caught up in feelings of self-loathing. Forgiving yourself is one way to fight negative thoughts.
5. Spend time with your loved ones
Surround yourself with loving and supportive people to build your confidence and make you feel accepted for who you are.
6. Be proud of your success
Celebrate your success and tell your workmates about your great achievements. Be proud of what you have accomplished, even if it seems awkward at first, but it can have a powerful effect on your self-esteem.
7. Do things that make you happy
Prioritize spending free time by doing things that give you joy and happiness. You should also consider learning new skills or trying out new hobbies. Mastering new skills can also be a good reminder of your talents and interests.
Home Remedies for Patients Diagnosed with Insecurity
If the patient is seeing a therapist, encourage him or her to discuss this with the therapist. Otherwise, ask gently what makes them feel insecure.
Sometimes insecurity is not only about current feelings. The best way to support someone to feel better is to boost their confidence by making them feel good about who they are. Remind themselves of times when they feel good about their lives, whether it is achievements in sports, getting good grades or anything else.
Book an appointment with a psychologist or professional therapist at home and abroad through Smarter Health. Smarter Health’s teleconsultation grants you access to healthcare services whenever you need them.